You have choice. You can select joy over despair. You can select happiness over tears. You can select action over apathy. You can select growth over stagnation. You can select you. And you can select life. And it’s time that people tell you you’re not at the mercy of forces greater than yourself. You are, indeed, the greatest force for you.Leo Buscaglia
If what Leo says is right, imagine the incredible amount of power that we have to make our lives the beautiful lives that they were meant to be! If we truly do have all these choices and we learn to exercise them and make “right” choices, just imagine what our lives can be like once we learn how to make those choices. If we can learn to see situations clearly and to understand the possible repercussions for any of several possible actions, we can turn our lives into very positive, very loving forces in this world.
We’ve had enough of people telling us that it’s us “against” the world, that there’s no “fighting” city hall, that life is a struggle and a trial. The forces outside ourselves aren’t powerful enough to take away our peace of mind and peace of heart, if we allow ourselves to find them and maintain them. They can’t “make us” feel a certain way, or take anything from us that we don’t want them to take.
This is possibly one of the most liberating concepts I’ve ever been exposed to–and one of the most simple and common-sensical. How much power do we give others to affect us in our day-to-day lives? How often do we feel bad or helpless or hopeless because of what other people have said or done? Quite simply, far too often–or at least that’s true for me.
I can choose how I feel. I can choose my attitude towards events or people. I can choose how I react to actions or occurrences. I’m not helpless, and my life and feelings aren’t simply reactions to events and powers outside of myself. I am me, I am worthwhile, and I have the power to make my own choices.
Questions to ponder:
1. Are you always aware of the different choices that are available to you in different situations?
2. How do we start to think that we don’t always have choices?
3. Do you make all of your choices based on criteria that are important for you or those you love?
For further thought:
Over the years I have come to believe that life is full of unchosen circumstances, that being human has to do with the evolution of our individual consciousness and with it, responsibilities for choice. Pain and joy both come with life. I believe that how we respond to what happens to us and around us shapes who we become and has to do with the psyche or the soul’s growth.
Jean Shinoda Bolen
Credits: Living Life Fully